So just now, I dealt with the difference between how a male's brain works and how a female's brain works. In my case, Chuck is smart but he forgets that I'm a woman at the end of the day and we thrive on more than what a man will.
In this case, it had to do with the topic of communicating and WHEN is the appropriate time to do so, which brings in the mention of a woman's brain in regards to how quick we are to react to something that seems just a tad out of place. Men should know, especially when they have been with one woman for longer than, let's say, a week, that communicating before a suspicious act looks much better than trying to dig out of massive hole after the fact and after lack of conveying what was going on.
Chuck is good man- I have no doubt about that, and normally he catches on and does the right thing though there are the few times I need to catch him. But today, for the first time in our over 3 year relationship, he gave me reason to doubt him- all due to lack of communicating. He had gone out with friends and, at the last second, they decided to go off base and get a motel room for the evening. Just to crash, which is something he has done in the past and I have had no issue with. Well, okay, not much, as I am still trying to get used to the thought of him and a social life without me and away from me…but that is a separate topic for another blog post. Well, he felt that it was too late to let me know and I'm sure he felt that it wasn't going to blow in his face the way it did. But then again, I don't think he planned, in a million years, that I would also check the bank account so early in the morning.
Call it nosiness or impatience as we are waiting on a bit of money from him to still roll in. At 4:30am, I decided to see, just possibly though I'm not holding my breath, that this money is finally in our account. And at that time, I notice a purchase of a motel room- something that my dear husband failed to inform me about the previous night when we last spoke. Let me clarify this about my relationship- I don't always live on this 'need to know' rationale. But as Chuck is apart from me and I live off his income at the moment while I'm pregnant and raising our children during his training, I have asked that we have open communication with the finances. Seems to work- most times.
Needless to say, my first thought was more towards thinking of 'what ifs' and, yes, as bashful as I feel NOW, I did think 'other woman'- not because I had such fragile trust in Chuck but more from personal experience. Long story that shall remain in my past but I did think it. And then I got angry- maybe a little too much but then again, we had just come out of a battle that was indirectly related to his 'rendesvous' at the motel.
Anyways, the point of this post is to point out that a woman mind is like dry kindling. You give us something to think about, to wonder without any explanation-especially when it comes to a man that we trust- we explode into 'whys', 'whats' and trying to make sure we don't get screwed in the end. Just like the bonfire. And if not careful, we can turn into a forest fire that is out of control for one man to deal with, so treating us with care like that fire that you don't want to burn up trees and little innocent animals would be a smart thing.
And that starts with communicating BEFORE thy foot enters thy large mouth. Guarentees a happy woman and getting laid sooner than your 65th birthday….
